If you have followed my blog for the last year or so, you are familiar with the Journey to Me series that I started when I was on blogger. For the new readers, Journey to Me was sort of an autobiographical piece that I began sharing with the blogosphere in hopes of helping others who had been in similar situations and it was also therapeutic for me, in that I had never shared of lot of the things with anyone. I stopped writing Journey to Me because it was emotionally draining and I needed a time out. It takes a lot to go back into your past and pull things out that you hadn’t really dealt with…so basically I took a break. I have decided to start the series again within the next week. What I will do is re-post the first 10 entries for those who are new to my blog. After they are all re-posted, I will start fresh with entry #11. Although this is my personal life, I welcome and encourage comments on what you read. Thanks for beginning the journey with me again.
Tag Archives: Therapy
Buck Up!
We have become a society of weaklings. Adults are weak, our children are weak; everybody starts to cry when some bird shit lands on their shoulders. I don’t get it…why can’t we suck it up and continue to live. The whole bullying initiative has its place (physical violence etc), but I think it would be better if we taught our kids to stand up for themselves and not wuss out because someone called them fat, gay or ugly or sends them a nasty email. I was a kid of the 80′s and kids have always been cruel to each other….bullies have always existed. When I ran home and told my mother what so and so said about me: her response was always something along these lines: ” so what! why are you crying over something somebody said? Are you what she said you are? then don’t worry about it.” There was never a time in my young life that I ran home contemplating suicide because someone called me a name.
I’d really like to know what has changed since that time. Why are kids killing themselves because little johnny picks on them? Why are adults in therapy because their coworker called them fat? Why are we so depressed as a society? Where did our backbone go? What happened to standing flat-footed and telling the world where they can stick it? What happened to the days when parents didn’t get involved in the neighborhood kids disagreements, but let them work it out for themselves? What happened to self-confidence and self-esteem? Why can’t we stand up for ourselves anymore?
Now we have bullying initiatives, to combat life problems. Parents don’t teach their kids how to deal with life’s issues and problems anymore and the result is suicide, drug use and god knows what else. I guess it makes sense though; because if the parents are skipping through life on one leg, they don’t have the wherewithal to teach their kids how to deal with life’s issues. We can protest and have forums on bullying all we want…they will still exist. Taking a different approach would probably do us all some good. I personally am sick of the whining from parents and the media about the big kid, teased the little kid for 5 years and the little kid decides to shoot the big kid because he bullied him. GTFOH!
What are we gonna do in 15 years when the same ill-prepared for life kids have their own kids? Be prepared for an onslaught of more bleeding hearts with nothing to contribute but more crying and whining.
Deal With It, Get Therapy
So the question is: “Would You Go To A Therapist”?
For me, the answer to this question is yes, I would and I have and it was the best thing that I could have done for myself. It’s amazing to me that in 2010, so many people have an aversion to seeing a shrink. What’s wrong with finding someone to help you deal with your issues? Why is there such a stigma attached to it? A friend of mine stated that Jesus was her therapist and no man could help her like HE could. I do agree, that if you are a spiritual person, going to God with your problems/issues is very important, but there are times when you need more…this is where the help of a therapist becomes valuable.
We all need help from time to time…professional help at that. It’s my belief that the non-believers of therapy are adverse to it because they don’t want to put in the work that therapy requires…they don’t want to deal with the issues that are causing the problem because dealing with the issues can be PAINFUL. Therapy is work and it requires you to explore areas of your life in an emotionally meaningful ways, but it pays off in the end. Dealing with our issues and ultimately resolving them makes us more productive in this thing called life. There is no need to be ashamed or embarrassed to seek out help when it’s needed.
