Nowhere in 10 Miles

Have you ever felt you were moving, but not progressing? Sort of like not knowing you are lost, but realizing you have passed the same house about 15 times…yeah, I know that feeling and it sucks. As life revolves, it does not wait on us to figure out where we want to go. We have to hop on when we are ready or never hop on and let it pass us by..its our choice.

I am at a point in life where nowhere is not an option. Sitting around and watching things happen is not the business…its more aptly deemed a waste of time. I’ve found that nowhere is usually disguised as daily routine: Wake in the morning, Go to Work, Lunch in mid-day, head back home around 5pm or so….repeat the next day. You do this enough, one day you will look up and realize that 10 years has passed and nothing has changed.

I challenge you to break the nowhere cycle and do something out of the norm

The Gift of Change

With it being the first week of the new year, I thought it befitting to blog about “change”. We hear constantly that change is good and that without change growth can never come. I admit that I have changed many times over the course of my 38 years here on earth. Some of the change has been good and some of it has been hell, but I did survive and was made a better person because of it.

I often wonder what life would be like if we never accepted the changes that we are faced with. Would we be unproductive and unhappy or would we make the best of where we choose to stay? I have encountered people who have actually taken this route and have remained stuck in the same rut/routine for years with no desire to do anything other than what they are doing. I can’t say that these people are unhappy, because they look and act like they are; but could it all be a farce? How can someone never want to progress from one point to the other is beyond me, but I realized that everyone is not like I am…If I am not moving, I am not living.

We have been given the gift of change, but if we never take the time to unwrap the gift, we will never realize how our lives can be changed for the better.  Be open to change.

My Reality

Learning to accept what and who you are can be a daunting task, especially when your idea of self doesn’t line up with the real you. In this case, I am not speaking of the physical self, but the spiritual part of man/woman. The things that we hold on the inside. The things that no one knows but us. The stuff that we keep locked away for shame and hurt. These secrets are what make up our person….our character.

Oftentimes, we paint a pretty mental picture of our person in order for us to live peacefully with our being, but in actuality we are quite dark and ugly on the inside. We have mastered the art of illusion and portray various characters for the world to see.

Amazingly we live like this and usually are never called on it…consequently, we do ourselves a major disservice because we are living a farce…more specifically we are living a lie.

Exploring the depths of our mental make-up can be hard and VERY painful, but the older I become, the more I realize that its something that I have to do in order to maintain my connection with my reality. Allowing disconnect in my life will bring me to mental demise on all levels.

I cherish the people who are a part of my life at this point and my desire is to remain a part of their lives as well as they remaining a part of mine. I enjoy my life, my freedom, my independence and the passion that I feel for life but my need for connection is paramount. Today I accepted that and embraced it.

Tomorrow my journey continues….

Rainy Wednesday Reflections

It’s raining in my town today and I am sitting at work doing a whole lot of nothing. I got to thinking about 2010 and how things have changed so much…some for good and some, not so good. All in all, everything happens to us for a reason. Life’s lessons are taught in order for us to grow and progress. There is nothing that we encounter  that is for naught. I guess our daily task is to cipher through our experiences and learn from them.

My Life Lessons:

• I’ve learned that no matter how much I care some people just don’t care back.
• I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
• I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life, but whom you have in your life that counts.
• I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
• I’ve learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
• I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
• I’ve learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
• I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

What are your life lessons?