More Than A Lesbian

Fact:  Being a lesbian isn’t everything I am, I actually have a name and personality.

It baffles me that people, both straight and gay use the word “lesbian” as a descriptor..for example, “This is my lesbian friend Jane” I can’t remember the last time I said “meet my straight friend John”…what is that about?

Are we so caught up in our sexuality that we lose sight of the things that make us  human beings? I really wish that we could evolve to a place where sexuality is not dissected from our personhood. Its true, we are made up of many parts, but all those parts work together. How awesome would it be if we dealt with people on a non superficial level?

She Must Be Gay…

Assuming that a woman is a lesbian based on her clothing,her hair, her femininity or lack thereof is silly. What makes a woman a lesbian is their romantic interest in women, not their outside appearance.

Assumptions are typically a result of ignorance. Most judgments of others are ego strategies to avoid uncomfortable feelings within oneself. When you explore beliefs and assumptions instead of judging people, you open a door to expanded self-awareness and self-acceptance. Rather than unconsciously delighting in the ego gratification of judging others, let your reactions and judgments help you achieve greater self-understanding—and accordingly, greater happiness and success.

When you use your judgment of others as a mirror to show you the workings of your own mind, every person’s reflection can become a valuable gift, making each person you encounter a teacher and a blessing.

From Where I Stand

From where I stand,

I see your beauty, I see your glow;

I see your heart.

From where I stand,

your smile lights up the room

touching my soul…indefinitely.

From where I stand,

our souls marry,

becoming one

exquisitely.

© 2009

10 Reasons Why Same-Sex Marriage Is Wrong…”A Joke”

This is of course a joke…I got a chuckle out of it, so I thought I would post it.

 Happy Monday Folks!

1) Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning. Also apparently those homosexual animals have picked up some unnatural behavior.

2) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.

3) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven’t adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.

4) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn’t changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can’t marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.

5) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Britney Spears’ 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.

6) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn’t be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren’t full yet, and the world needs more children.

7) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.

8 ) Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That’s why we have only one religion in America.

9) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That’s why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.

10) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.

A Summer Date

Let’s face it, Summer will be over in about a month or so. What did you and your sweetie do together this summer? Any cool dates, beach vacations or road trips? Make the best of these last few weeks and get outta the house. Break out of your relationship rut and take your sweetie on one of these fun summer dates.

1. Visit the Beach

Going to the beach in the summer is a must! Walk with your sweetie hand in hand, splash around in the waves and have a good time together.

2. Take in a Sporting Event

Summer is a great time to be outdoors and cheering for your home team. If you’re lucky enough to live in a city with a WNBA team, surprise her with court-side seats. Feeling adventurous? Check out something new, like roller derby…it is a great option and is packed with action.

3. Picnic

Pack up a basket of goodies and head to the local park or riverside recreation area. Impress her with your cooking skills, or simply stop by the super market deli for tasty cheeses, crackers, olives, water melon and other fun finger foods.

4. See an Outdoor Concert

Check with your local Parks & Recreations department for free outdoor concerts in the parks, or head out to one of the big weekend festivals. There’s nothing better than seeing a great show outdoors on a summer night. 

5. Take a bike ride

Or do something active like roller blade, play tennis or shoot a few hoops. After working off those calories, reward yourselves with a soft-serve ice cream cone.

 

6. Visit an Outdoor Cafe

Try and reserve a table near the sidewalk so you can watch the people go by. Enjoy each other and people watching over a slow glass of wine.

7. Take a Boat Ride

There’s nothing nicer than being out on the water on a hot summer day or evening. Rent canoes or kayaks and take a slow cruise around the lake, or if you’re more into speed, catch a ride on a jet boat excursion. Better yet, if there’s a dinner boat cruise in your area, that can be a great “special date.”

 

 

Lesbian Moment?

I am an avid yahoo chat user….it just helps my day go by faster. Thanks Yahoo! Anyway, yesterday I got an IM from a girl I befriended a few years ago when MySpace was popular. She was cool for the most part…even came to a big birthday bash I had back in 2008. Now mind you, I have not heard, seen or talked to this woman since 2008 and all of a sudden she pops up on my IM yesterday trying to chat me up. Needless to say, I was baffled because:

1. I don’t really know you anymore. Any kind of friendship we had has been washed away by the tide…I had to think for a few mins to refresh my memory…and
2. Why did you decide today to contact me. I took your name out of my IM list years ago and had no intention of contacting you again. Did you really think that I would just start chatting it up with you like we were cool or sumthin? Surely you jest? Well maybe not.

So chick just starts babbling about not seeing my honey and I out on the “scene” and how she thought we may have broken up because lesbian relationships rarely last. Then she goes into this spill about her bad experiences in the clubs and with other lesbians, so much so that she has stopped dealing with that crowd and so on and so forth. I am of course reading all this and wondering still: Why they heck did you contact me and further feel the need to inform me of all of your dealings? Surely you jest? So I ask?…You got to be kidding me right? We have not communicated in years. We never really had a friendship past the general pleasantries…so why?

She replied:  “Girl, I was having a lesbian moment. I felt you could understand where I was coming from, so I hit you up.

She got no reply from me…I blocked her and closed my Yahoo IM for the day.